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Discussion: Conflicted Feelings; Waiting for Mr. Right vs. Adoption vs. Insemination
| Created on: 12/16/08 09:23 PM | Replies: 26 |
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nbaileyJoined: 10/10/08 Posts: 10 |
RE: Conflicted Feelings; Waiting for Mr. Right vs. Adoption vs. Insemination 02/21/09 9:24 AM For all of you conflicted: Please don't say things like, " I try not to expect much" or I will never, etc. The power of positive suggestion is what you need to embrace and live. I was 34, single, very picky ( realizing who I have become as a single woman and not wanting to "settle") and my desire to be a mom was intense. Therefore, I sought out CCB.. I chose a donor, I went to my doctor, got ready, had the U.S and there was only one good follice (not even that good) the Doc suggested I wait; I said..Lets do it.. I know it will take. So we did IUI with 5677 and 9 months later, On her due date, my daughter was born. I never even thought about what I would say and how I would handle it... etc. That all came after she was born and I still don't know .. I figure that her and I will live our lives to the fullest. I will have another this year and we will live happy and full and we will figure it out together. Ok, So what do I say to people now.. I say, "her dad lives in California ( ccb) you don't know him!" It is the truth and they don't ever ask more than that. Just have your babies.. get pregnant, be healthy, stop trying to figure everything out. Your baby will help you do that...you just have to have her first. Good luck to all of you .. you are very strong women for even considering all of this.. so just do it!!! |
nbaileyJoined: 10/10/08 Posts: 10 |
RE: Conflicted Feelings; Waiting for Mr. Right vs. Adoption vs. Insemination 02/21/09 9:25 AM For all of you conflicted: Please don't say things like, " I try not to expect much" or I will never, etc. The power of positive suggestion is what you need to embrace and live. I was 34, single, very picky ( realizing who I have become as a single woman and not wanting to "settle") and my desire to be a mom was intense. Therefore, I sought out CCB.. I chose a donor, I went to my doctor, got ready, had the U.S and there was only one good follice (not even that good) the Doc suggested I wait; I said..Lets do it.. I know it will take. So we did IUI with 5677 and 9 months later, On her due date, my daughter was born. I never even thought about what I would say and how I would handle it... etc. That all came after she was born and I still don't know .. I figure that her and I will live our lives to the fullest. I will have another this year and we will live happy and full and we will figure it out together. Ok, So what do I say to people now.. I say, "her dad lives in California ( ccb) you don't know him!" It is the truth and they don't ever ask more than that. Just have your babies.. get pregnant, be healthy, stop trying to figure everything out. Your baby will help you do that...you just have to have her first. Good luck to all of you .. you are very strong women for even considering all of this.. so just do it!!! |
danimoni70Joined: 10/15/08 Posts: 20 |
RE: Conflicted Feelings; Waiting for Mr. Right vs. Adoption vs. Insemination 02/24/09 6:26 PM nBailey, Thank you for your kind words and reminders of positive thinking too. Your daughter is lucky to have a wonderful mom like you. I LOVE that you said her dad lives in California...once I become pregnant, I'm going to use that! |
MamaLauraJoined: 01/13/09 Posts: 28 |
RE: Conflicted Feelings; Waiting for Mr. Right vs. Adoption vs. Insemination 02/24/09 7:16 PM lol if I didn't live in California, I would use it too. |
ualtiggerJoined: 12/01/08 Posts: 603 |
RE: Conflicted Feelings; Waiting for Mr. Right vs. Adoption vs. Insemination 02/24/09 7:34 PM Hmm... now I know what to tell MY nosy folks too!! |
BratchRJoined: 12/16/08 Posts: 9 |
RE: Conflicted Feelings; Waiting for Mr. Right vs. Adoption vs. Insemination 02/24/09 9:45 PM nBailey, Thank you.....so much for your powerful words. I'm sitting here, so emotional....yet with relief in knowing I CAN "do this"....I can! Tomorrow I will be 34. Gosh, I am having a difficult time with this birthday. In a huge sense I am amazed of all that I have accomplished and all that I have seen...in light of some incredible challenges along the way. I feel very fortunate to have had these experiences, to have met some incredible individuals...all of which has contributed to the strong, capable person I am today. Your words affirm everything I want for my future...and it is such a liberating feeling to seek that which I want most! Thank you... |
popcoJoined: 02/26/09 Posts: 2 |
RE: Conflicted Feelings; Waiting for Mr. Right vs. Adoption vs. Insemination 02/26/09 12:44 PM I have a stunning baby boy from CCB!! He is the joy of my life... I think everyone struggles with many of the same questions that cirlce around this topic!!!! However, your deep desire for children is an innate drive and will not weaken until you have a child--- that intense!!! A mother's bond with her child is the strongest bond in the world. Unfortunaly a woman can conceive only during a limited timeframe in her life. Using donor sperm also takes sometimes much longer to achieve a pregmancy and increasing age decreases success rates. Men can be met at any time in lifeand could come and go, unfortunately, or pass away-- hopefully not! but children cannot be conceived at any time. SOOOOOOOO If you definintely want a child of your own.... ABSOLUTELY go for it!!!OTHER WISE YOU WILL MISS OUT ON THE GREATEST JOY OF YOUR LIFE!! I have 2 degress and have worked in the IT world and also teaching-SEEING my littly guy progress developmentalyy can be compared to nothing!n I'd give my life for him and love him intensely more than I could any man! And I've had some great relationships!!! Please let me know of your decision I have bad shoulder but took the time to reply to help and share...because I feel so strongly!!! account1955@hotmail.com |
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